Wednesday, August 10, 2011

Episode 41: The Indifferent Men


When I started having sex I used to think the end was the only thing. And by end I mean sexual climax. Of course the end mattered but it didn’t take long to learn the process of attaining the climax was also important; for it is this that differentiates the sexual ability of girls. When I was a novice in my kind of work I was not sure why men pay for sex; whether it was because they were sexually starved or because they were seeking variety. If it was the former then the end is what would matter, but if the latter the process would be crucial. Most of the men I slept with in downtown seemed starved and need of sex per se. They were okay with me just lying on my back, my head resting on my hands as they had their pleasure.  Or perhaps they were not starved sexually but in the pocket and thus were aware that for the 200 shillings they paid they could only get budget sex.

In the Street it was different and has been for a long time. The men who come there are most likely to have multiple girlfriends or are enjoying relatively good sex with their wives. But they pay a premium to, among other things, go to the edge of pleasure which is achieved not by the climax itself but the anticipation towards it. That’s the reason many of us here give their all to the clients. We kiss, lick and touch where girlfriends and wives don’t. We also allow men to do certain things on us they dare not do to their women. And because we have sex so many times and with so many different men, over time we become experts of sorts.

But something has changed of late. It’s tougher than ever before to satisfy my clients. And not because the quality of my performance has gone down, not at all, but rather men seem to have raised their expectations. If not they have become indifferent to my efforts towards achieving climax. I am flexible, creative and will go the extra mile to please my clients. And as much as I want repeat customers or bonus payment I do it because of the ego boost I get seeing a man enjoying my services. The face of a man who is pleasantry surprised by what I am doing to him sticks me for a while and motivates me, sometimes more than the money.

A few minutes with a man I am able to accurately guess what he has experienced and what he hasn’t. That way I am able to pull a trick out of my bag and give him something new. But none of my creative efforts surprises my clients anymore. And I don’t think all of them have had a taste of some of the things I come up with. I am also one of those who believe there are infinite ways to play with a man. When I ask some of these men if there is any particular experience they want, they don’t pinpoint anything. It is very frustrating.

I cannot find any logical for this new man, and my ego does not allow me to ask my colleagues whether they are experiencing the same but looking at their faces I bet they are. Is it that sex is so easily available that men are bored of it? I don't think so. It can’t be. If I was a science alarmist I would say we are going through an evolution moment when a species adapts to acquire a favorable trait. Perhaps men who have no frills sex live longer, though I guess they are less successful. Now I digress.

I once read a question a lady had asked an Agony Aunt. “What do I do to spice up our sex life?" The answer was the classical “Do away with all the shame and assume you are a prostitute". So what answer would she give to an actual prostitute? Maybe that's the answer I need.


Before you write me off know I still got a trick up my sleeve, the one thing that will make any man say " Shit!" and actually do it. Or so I think. But then this is supposed to be the secret weapon spared for the special one or the most desperate of situations, like when my life or a million dollars is at stake. Irrespective of what the indifferent men do, I won’t stop believing I am still one of the best in bed

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22 comments:

  1. To me sex is like knowledge....you cant have an abudance or monopoly of it to actually call yoself a sex expert. Hapo my dear I disagree with you.
    Maybe women back at home have learnt alot from the net, documentaries n all that other crap that nw rivals wot your common hooker has to offer, sme agree to as far as anal sex and even role playing. I guess its back to the drawing board...redifine yo product.To me sex is like knowledge....you cant have an abudance or monopoly of it to actually call yoself a sex expert. Hapo my dear I disagree with you.
    Maybe women back at home have learnt alot from the net, documentaries n all that other crap that nw rivals wot your common hooker has to offer, sme agree to as far as anal sex and even role playing. I guess its back to the drawing board...redifine yo product.

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  2. Sue I've followed your journey as you grew from a story teller to a actually a great actualist. the way you perceive this life is humbling. i love your blog, and as always I've always loved your posts.

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  3. teabag me and i'll pay you double
    wonderman

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  4. A real prostitute does it for the end, end is money. The guy will have his pleasure. If you want to provide GF experience, it may work or it may not. It all depends on you and the guy: if there is or there isn't chemistry between the two of you. If there is no chemistry, it doesnt matter how hard you try. "Tricks up the sleeve" is for a game of poker, not f*kin. Sex is just natural, nothing to do with tricks up the sleeve.

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  5. I'm taken back to the days we'd debate n' before we got to our points, we'd first beg to correct our opposition. Please allow me such indulgence...

    One, downtown has no relation whatsoever to the less-flashier/Poorer parts of town. It means CBD. Therefore '... men I slept with in downtown...' would pre-suppose that you've moved your whoring activities, to hurlingham or westlands streets (The only two streets I know that have street walkers)

    Second, it's still a sad picture reflected in your writing that, your self esteem is low.It has improved abit from your last few writings. I'll be among the first to open my big mouth n' purpote to answer any of your questions, asked without a back-drop. It makes me wonder, Is there a disconnect between Sue and your non-whoring self? Or are they one and the same, that continue to confuse each other in their respective double lives? .. something like Belle and Dr. Magnanti..

    That said, I have only been pleasantly surprised by two whores. One, who 'tossed my salad' after having invited her for holiday at the coast; n' the other whom, out of the blues, asked me if I'd like to shag her in the a$$, after a rather long f*kc!n session.. n' proceeded to guide my rejuvenated d!kc into her nether region, her still being a cow gal....

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  6. Maybe the high influx of porn, men have tried the many tricks they have seen so there is nothing new to see for now. Unless you become very innovative.

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  7. About 2 weeks ago a poko downtown gave me a bj. Not that it was bad but then it was nothing out of the ordinary. Seeing that I was not responding favorably she asked me " kwani huenjoy" . I have been with other langas who have asked me the same question during sex. I think most want their egos massaged if not to be made to believe they are good in what they do. I mean everyone wants some praise.

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  8. wow ! thanks for mentoring some of us too
    http://wakathangos.blogspot.com/2011/08/when-money-becomes-only-thing.html

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  9. sue, the way things are right now, just about every gal is whoring around so....blame it on liberalization, you cant have someone( mr my salad was tossed) that you have esteem issues, NAH. hell the ksh is at 95 to the dollar so we living in new times- its that simple-really.

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  10. blame it on the porn. some of the things only langas would do a few years back are now kawaida. bjs, anal, 69,etc are now expected of every girlfriend/wife. try tossing salad....i've yet to meet any woman who does that. and show some motivation; don't give a bj as if unakula hoho. and work on your presentation; exercise, make up etc. there are some chics who get undressed instead of mr.turtle getting excited anarudi kwa shell.

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  11. Does it really matter if the guy pays? There are so many guys looking for pussy why should you be bothered with any one of them: He likes it or he doesnt, I dont think that should matter in the circumstances.

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  13. Thats ur "cheupe" colegue?

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  14. No, cheupe is a guy. From http://www.cheupe.wordpress.com. Worth checking out

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  15. It's the internet and consumerism. The internet allows men to view and jerk-off to a wide, limitless array of fantasy and kink, so nothing is new or taboo anymore. Consumerism has turned a greater percentage of girls all around the world into part-time hookers, that, in order to get the latest fashionable shoes or purse, will give a blow job to a stranger at a night club, if he flashes the right amount of cash. Then there's the fags- the greatest gift (trojan horse) from the West, doing God-knows-what to any Tom's Harry Dick.

    Anonymister.

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  16. What's tossing salad

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  17. tossing the salad is the act of placing your tongue in a male or females ass, and probing all around the circumferance of the asshole, while aiding the person in masturbation

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  18. Sue oh Sue...Sue babe oh Sue, Pliz Sue...Pliz post somethin?

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  19. U need a bigger market, after u polish ur grammar. Other than kenyans....

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  20. Clicking on ASK SUE brings up a blocked page, you should look into that. For some reason, your grammar has deteriorated drastically and is quite poor as compared with initial episodes, leaves one wondering

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