Monday, July 18, 2011

Episode 36: Why Do You Sleep With Me?

There are two questions I always want to ask my clients. However, most of the times I don't get to because if I did, I’d cross a delicate line in the client girl relationship; that of minding my own business. I have no right, moral or otherwise, to go poking my nose in the private motives of my clients. Yet some of these motivations are of interest to me both for professional and private reasons. The top most question in my head wherever I am with a man is “Why are you sleeping with a prostitute?" There is no way I am able to frame this question without seeming to be standing on a higher ethical ground, of which I am not. Then again the benefits of answering such a question may not be obvious to a man. This is as compared to something like “Which position do you like best?” Nonetheless knowing why a man sleeps with me satisfies some curiosity inside me. Getting the answer also helps me align my spirits to what happens between the legs; this way I try able to give the man a sex session that corresponds to his deep needs. Also In some cases the answer reminds me of my relevance and gives me the morale to dress up on a cold evening and hit the Street.

The second question that I want to ask my client is “Why did you pick me, and not any other girl?" This is relatively easy to ask but awkward because when I do, I end up sounding like I have confidence and self esteem issues, and I am seeking to have my ego massaged. Certainly I have no confidence and self esteem issues but then it’s only natural once in a while to want someone to make a honest statement that will boost your sense of worth. Thus I ask this question hoping a man wont say " I picked you because you were nearest the door of my car", " I picked you because your price was lowest" or  " I picked you because you were freezing in the cold" or such other statements which hint at convenience and sympathy rather than something exceptional about my appearance or personality. Hence it does me a lot of good when a man says “I picked you because of your panache” or “the smooth way you puff your cigarettes was a turn on”, you know those kinds of sentences that touch on my self. 

In as much as I don't get to always ask either of the above questions I have always believed I know all the possible reasons that make men sleep with prostitutes. That was until I chanced on an essay titled The System of Collecting a month or so go. I was made aware of a new kind of man who I call the collector. Though the essay didn’t expressly say so, this is a man who has a list in his head or physically somewhere of the kind of women he endeavors to sleep with. Such a list may include; dreadlocked woman, professor over 50 years, with a bad sense of fashion, loud mouthed, very big ass, small ass, tomboy, illiterate, poor, smoker, deep voiced etc. Every time he sleeps with a woman fitting one of these attributes he crosses her from the list.

According to the essayist “A given woman stops being a woman and becomes no more than a vagina, a couple of breasts, a belly, a pair of thighs, a voice, a face – according to preference. Henceforth she is reduced to a set whose separate signifying elements are one by one ticked off by desire....."

Well the fact that I am a prostitute means that I already may be the above woman, but consciously thinking a man will cross me off some list after a session, leaves me in a nasty mood; feeling worthless. I know how silly it sounds for me to set some sort standards for myself when I am already considered to have sunk to one of humanities lows, but hey that is how I feel.

A collector may find prostitutes easy targets because the dealing is so business like and does not involve a chase. Then there are all kinds among us. We compete on uniqueness. We try to sound exotic by the way we talk and use of rare nicknames. At the risk of sounding proud I know for a fact there is one thing quite unique about me. The first time you talk or see me you note it. It’s not something many girls have. Whether the thing is good or bad will depend on an individual, but this makes me sure one of those odd men with lists is looking for my kind.

Getting crossed out from a list is my new fear. The problem is I have found no foolproof way to know whether a man is a collector or not. Not that I would do much if I knew, but at least if I proved he is not I would feel good. For the last two weeks I have been giving my number to clients I suspect to be collectors rather easily. If a man does not call or send a text I assume he is one.Of all those I have given my number none has gotten in touch with me. So now though I try to keep my head high I feel like an item, crossed off some list. It could be also I am being too eccentric or losing my mind.

I have answered some of the questions I have been asked. Click on the Ask Me page above to read.

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  1. So now the question goes,,,what is it that you find unique about yourself? about yourself?

  2. what is it that you find unique about some of your readers? or are you just another blog?

  3. Lemme guess. It must be your wittiness and intelligence?

  4. You know, dear, even normal girls like me ask that question all the time.

  5. If you asked me, the answer to the first question is "Prostitutes know how to please a man and I'm more myself when am with one." As for your 2nd question, personally, I go for cute looks, great body, but mostly your eyes coz they'll tell me something about you. You'd have to have interesting eyes for me to choose you.

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  7. what do i go for? le' me see. that smooth skin, that confidence "if you dont like me go fuck yourself". and many more items form a list of crossed items. have you ever thought of it like this sue: may be its a collector's problem, and not your problem? may be a collector crossing off a list serves to boost his small dick ego? may be him/her rejecting you, serves their ego?

    roll like you dont give a fuck sue. really do. coz if by any chance you give a rats's fuck........ that's the downspiral of loosing your mind. as always i love you blog sue.

  8. Why sleep with you? Though have not personally done it with you, i would term it as convinience and specific, no ties, neither commitments after the session, with a predetermined cost.Unlike keepers where you foot most of the bills and still she sleeps with others.....honestly --Riggs

  9. Sue baby! Y do you sleep with men?

    h men?

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  11. Sue, please dont ask a man why he sleeps you...its always to quench their 'thirst' and like any other products...individuals have tastes and preferences... for instance some like toyotas, others prefer mercs or audis...ceteris paribus...this applies to women as well

  12. I am a collector. I want to have sex with people from as many different nationalities as possible. I do not know my motivations for doing it or if I gain anything from it. All I know is that life is short and tomorrow I may die.

  13. I think this post or its subject matter is irrelevant given the context (the context of a sex worker). Considering that we are talking about a street hooker, men do not pick a prostitute for any reason other than that she is HOPEFULLY GOING TO BE a good fuck that particular night/day, anyhting they say above that is going to be misleading. Asking a regular John personal questions like these is useless.

  14. Panache (the quality of being able to do things in a confident and elegant way that people find attractive) and ennui (pronounced 'onui', feelings of being bored and not satisfied because nothing interesting is happening). Thanks Sue for keeping me reaching for my dictionary.

  15. Hi Sue,
    Regardless of how unsatisfactory or how unjustifiable this old profession is, its my thing-to-do on Thursday or Friday nights the way home from the bar (F*-a-ho night). I ask myself the same questions every time i F*-a-ho and pay.
    Let me try and answer your questions. Maybe i'll bring some sense into what i do.

    Why do i sleep with Prostitutes?

    Depending on the situation, my top reason is to validate my sense of lowness. Its not depression or anything like that. But somehow its good to know that i can go any lower than this and starting tomorrow, life can only get better. (Same reason why i drink myself to pieces or pick a fight for no valid reason) In this situations, i bargain hard, F* in a garage or bush or Parking for less than a 1 minute and pay cheap. Any ho goes.

    The second reason might be My Wife. She kills me. Her mental engagement is average, her sex is average (better than most hos I've been with), she complains and demands and e.t.c, e.t.c but she's still super-hot. So i rebel and F*-a-ho. In this situations, i might be choosy, i pay well and somewhat-ish enjoy. Average to pretty hos only.

    Third reason but rare for me is, the ho was appealing and easy. For this i pay not so well and then i carry i guilt conscience for a day.

    Why would i pick you?

    Hardly because of the sex but i gotta give you a reason to receive money.

    How would you re-align your spirits with what's happening between your legs knowing the above?

  16. hehehe... Truth, above just killed it.

    How I miss having a gal friend.. a good, reliable caring and nagging galfriend. My views on you, a prostitute? I view prostitution the same way I view doing something out of the norm. Say, like going on holiday, buying something new, doing something new, something different.

    I want to enjoy it and I want it to be memorable.

    P is P as you've categorically repeated quite a few times... whether I get it from the house-help next door, from a super model or from you, a whore. So if I have to go out of my way, risk alot to lie down with you (dunno about this non-sense of 'sleep'-From what I've gathered, you are very much inclined to pinch my valuables if I so much as twitch my eye-lids!) then it has to add something to my life... N' No I don't mean HIV.

    I'd want to save for it, go to a slut who'll give something of a GFE experience... Nice hotel, nice back-rub, erotic sexy talk, a memorable very-long blow-job, complete with swallowing of my cum therewith... I'd want you to lap dance me, spread your legs and let me awe at your 'treasures' below, sate my visual appetite before I embark on sating my physical appetite. I'd want you to cow-girl me deep in your P, thereafter hold my dick and slide it in your ass n' when I'm spent, lick every drop of my cum and clean me with tissue... Wash me thoroughly thereafter n' sing how fantastic I was n' that you can't wait to see me again...

    Now, for you to do that, you must be special.. you must be confident, pretty much complete as an individual.. not the murky insecure, low self esteemed 'rat' you portray above.

    A roach will lie with a roach
    A rat will lie with a rat
    A Prince will lie with a Princess - well atleast pretty much of the time
    Therefore if your college educated ass chooses to lie with the lowest of the low, sabina joy going rugged penny pinching drunks, you'll forgive me if I called you scam, spit on your face before I shoved my hard d!kc into your un-lubricated P... this despite the fact that some government minister picked you yesternight in some German top-of-the-range contraption that I might never step in, let alone own.

    Because that is what you've turned yourself into.. whore!

  17. I would sleep with you just because i like variety. U see men ogling around to all sizes everyday. There is freedon to experience every size or age any day. When i purpose to lay a woman, i more or less have a choice of what i pick for the night, count yourself special if i pick you the following day.

  18. show me a particular size or age of a woman, and if i dont have a memorable lay with a similar one, she might be the one for the day. in short, its about variety

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