Monday, July 9, 2012

Questions Answered


Anybody still visiting this place? Okay I have been away for a while. Long story as usual. Here I am giving some quick answers to questions asked. I will post answers several times this week. Some of the questions may be outdated by now, but I will answer them nevertheless.Questions are reproduced exactly as asked.


1.Hi Sue, how comes kenyan women find the courage to go to the streets yet there are very few with enough courage to join sites connecting them with men that pay for the service or maybe there is another arrangement for them to make cash? - doug

My first concern would be privacy. The chances of a family member or friend getting me on Street are lower than of them finding me on an escort site, with a photo of me displaying my whatnot so as to win customers. Then again if we met on the Street the matter would end there. I mean if he is out there looking for a prostitute he would have no moral right to judge me for being one.

I would never know the identity of the people viewing me on an escort site and well how can I duck and hide like it happens on the streets at times ? So my amorous cousin or neighbor could see me on a site and start talking behind my back.  And if asked “What were you doing visiting an escort site?” He will gladly answer “Actually I didn’t visit the site, some pervert tagged me on Facebook.” Nowadays that is enough explanation. 

2. Are there prostitutes who have undergone female genital mutilation and if so how do they cope on the streets since they cant enjoy sex fully?  - Big Fan Mariam

Yes there are. Not that I have seen them naked but they talk about it without regrets , and keep repeating as if in pride, as if it makes them tougher women . As to how they cope, well the main purpose of this business is to sexually please a man and not oneself, and earn money while at it. So many times I have pleasured men without feeling a thing myself. Yet there are men whose pleasure is not complete unless the girl seems to be enjoying herself. For those a girl can always fake or act in other ways that compensates her FGM short coming.

 On the other hand it’s a plus if you mix business with pleasure; enjoy sex while still making men ecstatic and getting paid for it. But if one cant for reasons beyond their present control, say FGM or boredom, one doesn’t get depressed; she just reminds herself why they are on the street in the first place: money.  Okay who is the god? Money is. What is money? Money is the god. My orgasm is not.

 3. Can a white girl make it on the streets of Nairobi? And can you make it in Europe? - Johnnie

 Sure, a white girl can make it.  Never mind the roughness here. Every street girl anywhere in the world has an in built system to handle that. Haven't you seen it in movies and James Hadley Chase novels? Would she get clients? Definitely yes. Since my college days and up to now I hear men in Nairobi bad mouth white women .Saying all manner of things about their bodies, sex prowess or lack of it and so forth.  Much of it is hot air. Few local men would turn down a white P. One explanation why men pay for sex is variety. A man will pick a white girl not for any other reason but discover how it is with such.  Is it like in the movies? And of course sleeping with a white girl will make men acquire bragging rights. “I did it with a white woman and let me tell you…..” . Interestingly for reasons unbeknown to me the number of white prostitutes in Nairobi is increasing. White will soon be the new Ethiopia.

For the same reasons above I am sure to make it in Europe. The main draw back may be the laws and generally the system there which I may take time to understand but eventually I would hack it. That said I believe it’s easier for a white girl to make it on the streets of Nairobi, than for a black girl to succeed on the Avenues of Luxembourg.  Or is it?

4. What will you name your child, if you ever get one? - Nenda

 Not sure. If a boy definitely not John, probably Tonka Zan, Brutus (Popeye) or something of the sort. If a girl I would come up with my own name whose meaning I would assign. I d prefer a name made only
of consonants.           

5. Which of the present presidential candidates will you vote for?  - J K

Given a choice none. They lack the glow despite their cash.  But I have no choice and I got to vote. As for who, the less said the better.

 6. Why don’t you reply to email? - Marto

 I try to. Or used to. Of late I have been away from email for a while but I am back and digging in to reply to everyone who has dropped me a note .Considering the pile it may take a while though.

7. Do you think men love sex more than money? Why ay for it when they can get it free of charge from their wives? - Eric

No I think men love cash more. Several men have disrupted a session just because they had to rush somewhere to ‘fix a deal ‘.  I believe for both men and women sex is a means not an end to anything. Money and power give more pleasure to human beings than sex, or so I think. Paying for sex is a cog in the wider money making scheme. At times sex relaxes men and helps them focus on their goals. Would a man choose 20 million shillings or doing it with Beyonce? I think the former. I would choose the former too if  its Jay Z in the picture.




Wednesday, May 16, 2012

Less Than 500 For 24 Hours & Other Questions Answered..

Here I answer a few questions. I reproduce questions as asked.

1. Where do i get a cheap hooker in nairobi? <500 bob for a 24hr session? - Sleek

Ha! Although the cost of sex is not directly proportional to the cost of living, that's a long shot, and maybe 'exploitation'! Then again more than before girls are learning how valuable their bodies are and peg prices accordingly. Of course you can still get girls for Ksh.50 for a short time. But less than 500 for a whole day and night, well a not so professional girl. Then again if a girl agrees to do less than 500 for 24 hours then you better think again, she may be having an ace up her sleeve. Unless of course you are giving something more than money, say some love. Anyway you can try Snack, that bar at the entrance of Mlango Kubwa if they are still open.

2. Can you post a pic of your pussy only? - Dzeko

No, I wouldn't do that. And after all you have probably seen a look a like somewhere. The difference is not in the appearance of the pussy, but what a girl can can do with it. Or better still what a man finds inside.

3. hello sue, why not surrender ur life to Christ and repent from this evil way, have been in Nairobi the street that you mention I know it very well, please you still have a chance and total surrender ur life to Christ today.those who do this work they end it up in the grave and when they die they go to hell. and where is the money? the money also perish as well.today is ur day tomorrow may be too late 4 you. Jesus Christ loves youBro. Emmanuel from Germany..

Brother thank you for your concern. Like I said before I believe in God, what we may differ on is the definition of good and evil. And also God's purpose for every human being. I am yet to discover His purpose for me, but seeing how mysterious God is I wouldn't be surprised if I am not actually lost. 

4. Hi Sue .Just out of your experience on the street have you met girls who are desperate to get off the street ...or some who had to be high to be able to have sex with a client? Also would you know or suggest ways they can get a helping hand to get themselves off the street? or at the very least tell their stories? Just so you get an idea of what I mean watch this song http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fpqRBG_98 - Josephine

First I confess my connection is not very good, and so I have not watched the song. But I will make a point of doing it. Yes there are girls who are desperate to get off the streets. You see the circumstances of each girl are different. Some are pushed to the Street in rough quick way, without time to think of it. Then there are girls who come willingly but are not able to physiologically adapt to the 'harshness' here; the insults and  madharau. So they stick in desperation, wishing there could be a way out..all easier said than done...They end up staying, they become hardened and the desperation to leave is no more. The focus then is on The Jackpot, that will transform their lives. The large amount of money they will legally or otherwise get from a man. Or the European guy who will marry them. But one may never hit The Jackpot. Prostitution then becomes their career until. Yes until.

Being high to have sex with clients is normal. Its not necessarily out of desperation but more because of what a high does. One is daring, can give a not so clean but loaded man a blow job, the time of his life etc. Still there are those who get high to 'escape' rather than boost the session as above. Needless to say a high eventually becomes a low, and if a girl was escaping the realities of her work then she finds herself in a worse position mentally. A position which can only be redeemed with a more potent drink, herb or powder.

Nowadays there are many organizations, 'well wishers' and church people who come to the Street to help anyone willing get off. I would hesitate before making such suggestions, at least not in a general manner.

5. Have you ever had to use saliver to wet ur vagina when u were not ariused enough to get wet?

Yes I have done it. While at the SJ I used to do it often. But it is not professional. Presently if I sense my body does not react to the arousal efforts of a man then I use a lube. Then again nowadays its not so much a turn off if you unleash KY, especially if you use it to give the man some pleasure too.


Still got tens of questions. I will answer some tomorrow and the day after. I may have inadvertly skipped some questions but I am going through everything and will answer them all. Keeping asking. And I am still working on the emails.



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Friday, May 11, 2012

Not With Flowers But Our Thoughts

(This is from the May issue of Up Nairobi. Of course with an editor the voice and style is different. Between Monday and Wednesday I answer all questions, email and all else. And hopefully I will be gone forever)

"Some of the most vicious fights on the Street have happened when mothers are invoked. Say when a girl swears by her mother to teach another a lesson. Or when one insinuates that a girl has learnt the ways of the Street from her mother. The latter always results in a heated exchange which ends up in a physical fight. For mothers hold special places in the hearts of the girls here. Though common reasoning has it that a child's upbringing influences her adulthood
decisions, the logic here is that being a sex worker is an own choice which has nothing to do with the parents. Girls tend to say “My mother gave her best but I made the final decision to sell my body”.  For instance if a girl is on the Street  supposedly because her mum could not raise enough money to educate her and subsequently help her acquire a good job,  then the blame is on the government and not the mother. And if not the government then the father is to blame.


Yet the male clients too don’t want to have their mothers dragged to the filth of the Street. Its always an ugly scene when  a girl as much as suggests that a client's mother has something to do with his uncultured manners, say his reluctance to pay or his use of demeaning language.

On the other hand as much as mothers are protected from the Street “My mother" keeps popping up in our conversations. Not so much in praise but in fear and anxiety. The fear of what would happen if our mothers came to know what we do for a living. And the anxiety of waiting for her next call, thinking that during the last visit one said and acted in a way that was contradictory enough to give her a clue of our true work, and not the hotel job one keeps telling her about. The anxiety is not expressed directly but more in efforts to bribe the mum to ignorance. For at the bottom of their hearts many girls suspect their mothers know what they do and are only giving a blind eye.


.......On the Street any day marking a special event or honoring a group of people passes without notice if it does not translate to any monetary gain. Mothers’ Day is no exception. But here we honor our mothers everyday. Not with flowers but our thoughts. Read the rest here.  "

Happy Mothers Day. 


Tuesday, May 8, 2012

Up Nairobi:( Fun On The Street) and This and That


Wow! I have been away from the city, the blog and email. I have been hitch hiking around the country trying to 'redefine' myself. But here I am back with one foot on the Street and the other everywhere. I admit that I missed the blog. Sometimes I feel like I know you as close friends. Somehow offline I am not able to talk the same way I do here.Okay forget that.

Now I still had a few posts I had planned to write before I disappeared. I will try write them. There are also so many loose ends to the ends to do with the blog : Questions I need answered, promises I need to keep, I owe a number of people some things etc. I plan to do all that. And my email! Its overflowing but that's what I will work on in the next few days.

I still write a monthly article for Up Magazine. Here is an excerpt from the April issue. The style maybe a little different, and the copy cleaner, of course because there is an editor at work.

....Attention people of Nairobi! The Street is not only about gloom and doom; there is also fun and laughter. Those who have passed along the Street when we are on duty must have heard of our loud, unrestricted laughter. The kind you only hear in  Naija movies. A sound so different from the careful giggles of many in this city who act as if it’s against the city’s by laws to have a good hearty laugh. Our cackle tells you that we are ticking despite the many shortcomings of our work.

Of course of course I know some of you will claim that our laughter is hollow and even go ahead to quote the poet who said "we laugh to keep from crying." But there you get it wrong. We are genuine. And after, all isn't our business that of looking at the nakedness of human beings, physically, emotionally and otherwise? Is there anything much more fun than that? Read the rest of the article here 






  

Tuesday, March 27, 2012

Questions Answered

I am still around 'concluding'. So today I answer some questions as asked by readers...

I reproduce the questions exactly as asked.

1. Considering your work , do you have any unfulfilled sex fantasies? - Max

Who doesn't? Yes I have. The Street does not necessarily give you the opportunity to fulfill all your sex fantasies, for truth be told fantasies are a little weird and their appeal is when they remain fantasies rather than realities. That said I have fulfilled some of my fantasies. I have seen men fulfill theirs, and quite a number don't jump in triumph after , they look dull.


2. Have You heard of Lisa sparxxx's record? She has done the number U took years to in 60 seconds (pun intended) My question is how do You regard Yourself with respect,dignity,r humanity when other Men use U'r body for masturbation? Finally I have noticed that You have managed to change the view of prostitution somewhat based on an analysis of comments so has Your readership changed You?

Yes I have heard about Lisa Sparks and her record of having sex with about 1000 men in a day. Bet I am doing good. Anyway five in a day is usually on the higher side of me so I cant even imagine about 30 men an hour.

I still regard myself with dignity. If I lost self respect then that would be the end of me. I see everything mostly as my choice. And with that I make the choice  not to lose sense of myself despite the many things that work towards crushing my dignity. And men using my body for masturbation is the last thing that would make me lose my dignity. I take it positively; like a sort of complement of my body. 

I certainly can't assume the effects of my readers on me. Although I interact with men everyday in their most naked form, there is something about the anonymity of the internet that shows another side of people. I dare say I have learnt a thing or two, though not surprised, by what my readers say.

3. Are you A Kikuyu? If not, what are you? - Giggs

Ha! I am tribe less! Why did you think of Kikuyu first? I have previously given a big hint of what tribe I am , but then again I have a little of several tribes.


4. Do you sometimes shift to places like mombasa,narok...name them,when there is a romour that there is alot of money circulating on those sides,for example tourists,bumper harvest...? - Gidi

No, I have never done that though its something I really wanted to do but kept procastinating . My particular interest was Narok and Malindi...well well I think retired or not I will do visit...


5. Are there Man Prostitutes in the Street? If so, Are there women who come to pick up Man? - Giggs

Yes there are now male prostitutes along Koinange. These serve both men and women. But rarely do women come to pick male prostitutes from the Street. I think its for the reason there are many safe and decent grounds to hunt for a man. The male prostitutes on the Street are increasing at a very fast rate, and I guess eventually there will be some sort of turf war.

6. Hey sue..What was the longest time a man went without Cumming? When was the Lowest time? If your not sure can you estimate.- Mario

Ha, the longest time is never because there are men who cum at all. The shortest time is seconds, because there are those who ejaculate as soon as they are in. However realistically I have done a half an hour plus with a man. When the man is sober and looks okay I always wonder if  his going beyond the average duration is a commentary of my skills or my organ. Of course of course there are many unseen reasons which can affect, e.g Stress..

7. Hey Sue, keep it up! My biggest problem is: what makes women steal from a client? My friend recently took a mama home while very drunk and she stole several items in the morning, including petty things like foodstuff plus mobile phones. The guy says he could have just given her the food stuff if she had asked for it. Weirdly, she left lots of expensive stuff behind.

Like I mentioned before the motivation for stealing is different for each girl. There exists the underlying mistrust between us and clients which would make asking for such basics not convenient. And what would a client think of me if I asked for cooking oil or maize flour? That's a possible red flag; here is a possible thief. And what would it do to my ego to go begging for such? Not to glorify stealing but when one picks from a man the ego is raised and their sense of achievement. It feels better than having to beg for food.  In our kind of work its dangerous to have ego issues; you will not only achieve less but hate yourself, the world in addition to feeling 'useless'.

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Thursday, March 22, 2012

On Winding Up The Blog


Yesterday was my last night on the Street. I am out of there completely. However I am not out of the sex business, at least for the next one month or so. As for the blog I will just finish answering the questions and do one final 'behind the scenes' post. Starting today I will reorganize/redesign the blog a little; make it much more 'prettier' or 'uglier' ; give some posts a permanent place and some more prominence.

 I will hang around even after the final post because there are some people are working on a few products based on the blog content. Looking at my notebook there are many more dispatches from the Street I would have written, but then time has caught up with me. Maybe later I will be giving quick snippets of such here.  I am fixing a collection of all the Episodes. I hope to find a way to make automatic downloads of such possible. All my ebooks whether free or for sale will now be hosted here.  The Hook Up section will be here for longer. I might also retreat and do a complete book. Once the technology issues are resolved I will continue with the seminars. And yes I am still determined to reply to all the emails however backdated they are.

Too bad I won't stick up to Episode 69 as I would have wished. Thanks all for reading, the comments, criticism , praise and all.

Any final wishes ?  ;)

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Friday, March 16, 2012

Episode 62: Random Thoughts On Our Industry


I told another group that the sex trade is up there with production houses, publishers and Hollywood, because we are all in the entertainment industry. The girl on the Street is now shoulder to shoulder with Avril, Muthoni the author and Tanya. We are all entertainers. Or is it?

Gone are the days when a man would come to the Street just for a quick sex fix because he couldn’t  get some elsewhere. Now the man comes as if he is going to a concert, you know you can listen to music in a radio but crave the party and entertaining mood of a show.   Gone too are the days when a blow job was an extra, to be given only to those who paid more. Nowadays its default. Even downtown where sex was so business like I hear a bj is increasingly becoming the norm. My days at the  SJ I dared not allow a man to touch my boobs during a short time. But I hear things have changed there too.

 In music and publishing they talk of voices, beat, content and style when listing things that differentiate artists. Successful artists are those who choose the right mix of those. What about us? Here on the Street  we have started to define ourselves in genres.  Though in the Street there is not much room to market yourself according to your specialty,  in the City’s brothels it’s the norm. Like I said we know girls who specialize in anal, threesomes and the increasingly in vogue BDSM. Yet men coming here wont state openly what they want. And the girls won’t say what they specialize in. So when the girl gets in the car the man will say “Do you do anal? I want anal”

 “No, I don’t” a girl may answer. “But I know someone who does. I can get her to you at a small fee” And so it happens.

In publishing a book may become timeless. See Shakespeare and Albert Camus. In music it’s a bit tough; a musician has to keep reinventing himself or herself lest they fade away. It’s the same with us. When one joins the Street one packages herself as young and fresh. But after a year the young and fresh can’t sell anymore so one talks of being mature and fresh. Never mind the freshness may no longer be there. By the third year when the strain of the Street is visible on the face and thighs freshness and maturity don't sell. Experience does.
Our sexuality is evolving. I guess triggered by the push by human beings towards comfort and happiness in every sphere of their lives. Of course the evolution is also triggered by our response to the many and easily available sexual information, stories, videos, photos, toys and whatever else. Certainly the body and the brain respond to these. And the barriers to entry being less in the sex industry than in music or publishing, there will be many who join to satisfy the demands of the evolving sexuality.

So the sex industry is becoming bigger and competition stiffer. The mayor estimates there  are 21000 sexual acts in this city every night. If each is worth Ksh. 1000 then we are talking of Ksh.21000000 a night or 0.6 billion in a month. Quite some dough. Yet many in the country want us to remain underground, just like the drug industry. I don't want to digress to that argument now but in a recent comment someone said the undoing of the sex industry is that it’s associated with bad elements; the drug barons, robbers and others who get a kick from having girls as part of their networks or hovering around them a la Hugh Heffner or Al Capone. So he argues legalizing prostitution will not make it easy for the government to fight these evil citizens. You know a prostitute with her rights protected will not just be searched by a male policeman and drugs found in her handbag or better still in her panties or between her buttocks.  She will demand a search warrant, and meanwhile hide the drugs, gun or whatever. I have problem with this line of reasoning but won’t go into it at the moment.

Back to the sex entertainment business. There are girls and men who are now choosing sex work as a career. The old argument that one gets into the work because of poverty is becoming increasingly outdated. Of course there are many who are in the work because of their poor circumstances but there are others who are educated with other options and opt to make a career out of sex, literally. Didn’t you hear Daughtie talk of our bodies, our choice?

As a country we are starting to acknowledge the entertainment value of sex more. Nevertheless we are still behind as compared to the western countries. Just look at our online porn offerings which are just obvious depictions of what we do in private. Nothing really creative or imaginative. But we keep watching them hoping for something to excite us in a different way. Where are the local erotic books? I have heard of none since David Maillu and Love For Sale. Where are live cam girls and men who you can give orders? Where are the dancing shows? Where are the sex games? I have heard of a few of these, and hopefully we will get there. The fact is that the demand is amazing and someone will come in to fill it. 

The publishing, movies and music industry are facing the problem of piracy. At least you can’t pirate sex per se. But the competition and pressure to remain on top is enormous. Only the very creative and innovative will survive. And only those who make themselves known, or brand themselves in a way or another will go beyond the average one hour gig.

I don't feel too good quitting when things are starting to get interesting. Maybe I should just reinvent myself and remain in this segment of the entertainment industry which is said to tear the moral fabric of the society.


Now I decided I have no business  match making. So for all with such requests I have opened a hook up section where you can list who and what you want or looking for, and you are bound to get responses. CLICK HERE to list yourself. As for those who we talked on email  I will be posting your profiles later in the day. And those asking for specialty  Street girls, I will be in touch.
 
Somehow today things are slow, and I am taking it easy. I will catch up with quite a number of my emails . Do have a lovely weekend.

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Tuesday, February 14, 2012

Up Nairobi: Can Sue Keep Her New Year’s Resolutions?


Well, its said what goes around comes around. And it has been the same with me. After the regrettable ( yes the guilt caught up with me) act of stealing from a client, I was arrested for something completely different, and spent some days in the cells. It was not the worst of things, but not good either. This year I am excessively upbeat and not even the time in the cells has lowered my high spirits.  I am not mad at the 'system' , like I previously used to be each time I collided with the authorities. Yet I now doubt whether to really quit. But that's a story for another day and so is that of the Mayor talking of legalization. Happy Valentine everyone.

I still do a monthly column for Up Magazine. And here is an excerpt from the February issue. Its a little bit overtaken by events. And of course it has passed through an editor's hands so its more clean:



 Every 31st of December I make a New Year resolution. For the last three years my resolve has always been the same; to quit the Street.  Usually this is easier said than done. For a start the timing is wrong; after trying to show off to family and friends quite a bit during the festivities, come January I am without a cent . Okay I say to myself let me stick for a month so at least I can quit with some money in my pocket.  True by the end of January I will have made some money but the marketers will have started running the Valentine advertisements which are of the kosa uchekwe kind. Why then not stick for another two weeks only , be part of Valentine and hopefully wait for the lovers and lonely hearts windfall? And that’s the point I rewrite my resolutions to focus on an extended stay on the Street. This year has not been different and in the second month of the year I find myself making street wise resolutions:

Firstly, I decide to only focus on valuable customers. In this city, impressions can be deceiving. But the temptation to fall for initial impressions is always there, you know, that love for status.  That urge to rush and grab the man driving a Range
Rover Sport, and show my back to the one driving a Spacio. I wish to fight this “blind Nairobi hunger” for prestige, but it’s a tough one. Still, in my third year in business, I have developed an extra sense that helps me to differentiate between good and bad customers. Good clients pay the right amount without much ado. And good clients are not necessarily those driving the big, flash cars. This year, I promise to instill in myself the discipline not to rush for status at the expense of a higher pay.

I also want to avoid what is not legally mine. Those in the know say that this city is small and fluid. If I hurt someone, the chances of our not somehow bumping into each other are far from negligible. In my profession, my colleagues can easily smoke me out just to win the victim’s favor. And that’s the mess I always find myself in whenever I pinch something from a man...... Read the rest HERE.


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Wednesday, February 1, 2012

Questions Answered

Ooops! I have let the questions accumulate without answering for so long. Some have been overtaken by events. But here I answer the one batch. I will try answer all of them by the end of the month, with more answers this week. I may find myself still hanging around even after February to tie things up. I am not under pressure to quit so I am taking my time.

Here are some questions and answers I have given today.

Hi Sue,i have a question. A few months ago I got drunk and passed by KStreet and ended up picking a lady on my way home, I have never done that before. We went to a place called forest lodge which she told me is the most popular place for those kinds of things. I told her I did not want to have sex all I wanted was to see her naked and maybe touch her pussy a bit. So she got undressed and we started anyway one thing led to another and before I knew it we were having unprotected sex I even came in her. Is this normal? Do the ladies on on K street do this? I really regret it I have even quit drinking. I got tested and im okay thank God. But please tell me why she would agree to this? The sex however was very good. - Stupid

As unfortunate as this is, its also funny. The Ad says you should always have a pack of Trust in your pocket because you never know when the may strike. I can't speak for the girl. Different girls have different motivations.  In the times I have had unprotected sex  I was caught up in the moment and regretted it. Maybe it was the same with the girl. Or maybe she had nothing to lose. You certain you are okay?

 So, how much do you charge to have fully sex? e.g have sex? give a blowjob?? and how big are your boobs? can you like google boobs images and (turn the safe search off), and find the ones that are close to yours and post them on here? lets see ur level of sexiness, please? - Rahaq

Like I said before the charges depends on my impression of the man. Its an instinct thing. For instance I always find myself overcharging men who treat me well. Maybe its taking advantage, or assuming they
will understand dynamics of price and risk. Self assured men have no much fuss. You mention a figure and they go with it. I even  don't need to mention a price to some, they simply know how to treat a girl well, and will pay accordingly.

You are so smart, dont you regret wasting your parents money to go to college and then not do anything with that degree? - Mario
I hesitate to call myself smart. Some things have done show otherwise. That said I wouldn't say I wasted my parent's money. I find myself using so much of my education. Comparing myself to my colleagues who have say five years of schooling I think I am happier.  And who is it that said education is learning to turn stone to bread?

 Get the rest of the questions and answers HERE.




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Monday, January 30, 2012

Episode 59: I Can See The End

This is one of my last posts. I will be wrapping the blog sometime in February. Well , I have decided to leave the Street in the coming month. I have become a little weary, and as much as I try to convince
myself otherwise I have reached my peak and can only start going down. There are no quitting ceremonies. For the next two weeks or less I will continue going to work then one day fail to turn up. I stay for a week a month and more. The girls will start spreading rumors of what could probably have happened to me, and quickly I will be forgotten, after all I am not among the most charismatic on the Street. And while my name is being erased from the Street so will it be deleted from your brains. As I fade from your memories I will be struggling with myself not to succumb to the devilish but exciting lure of the Street.

I am not sure what happens next. How I earn my living and all. I might take a long break out of the city, repackage myself and come back to explore other things. Age is catching up with me and its time I tried
to live more of my dreams. Well forget the brand building. I am not going to a higher level in the sex industry, despite my having enough of the right contacts, experience and Street brain to become a big time pimp.

 On the other hand I am not quitting on moral grounds. I am not going to spend the rest of my life saying my years on the Street were wasted. Or trying to 'reform' anyone. I am quitting more out of fatigue and the need to change direction, or like they say in corporate speak "to pursue other interests." 

I once toyed with the idea of stopping writing the blog without giving the readers notice, but then that wold be a bit rude. So I will make some few posts within the next month, and when the last of the last comes declare so. I think it will come very very soon.

There is so much I could write about from my experiences, there are posts here which have epilogues, and maybe which could sound better with more vivid descriptions etc . Perhaps one day when I have the
will and resources, I will write up a proper book. Ideally that would have been the best way to wrap this but then the ideal more often than not eludes me.  The blog will remain here. And maybe once in a while I will pass by to document any interesting development related to my struggle to shake off the Street.  But I doubt there will be anything interesting.

There are so many loose ends related to the blog and my interaction with it, and those I hope to tie up in the next few weeks if not days. Tomorrow I answer questions I have been asked through the Ask Me section. Wow! The end is nigh and the countdown has begun. There is no turning back now.

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Friday, January 27, 2012

Episode 58: Goodbye Guilt

I bet I am starting to sound like a broken record; once more I talk of quitting.  This has nothing to do with the many emails and comments I have been receiving to the effect of late. Those I will respond to later.

 Sometime ago in a moment of personal resolution I  promised myself that if I ever stopped feeling guilty about the evil acts I commit during my work then it would be time to quit.  Of course when I talk of evil I don't mean having sex, that is good, but that other 'bad’ things beyond sex, like stealing from clients.

I have always thought myself not fully gone into the depth of sin because I still felt guilty after stealing. After all its things like guilt that separate human beings from animals. Or is it? In those relatively few times I have stolen from men, I have ended up remorseful despite my justification for the act.

My justification for stealing had always been diverse. Sometimes I made it look like a class war; you know the upright beings and us the wrongly condemned . Other times I told myself I was participating in the gender wars. What's wrong with punishing a man who is cheating and probably making his family suffer? There were also those men I felt were mean, and what I was getting was my rightful fee.  However deep down inside me I knew I was lying to myself. There was no reason for my greed as shown by my thieving ways.  In the end I just felt terrible.

Different girls have varied strategies and guts for stealing. For me depending on the conditions the best time to lift anything from a sober man is before the sex. When his reasoning is made fuzzy by exposed thighs, kinky talk and anticipation. The foreplay offers such a good opportunity to set up a heist, if stealing a wallet maybe made that grand.

Picking during sex has never been appropriate unless there is an extra girl or the man is a bit tipsy and not fully undressed. The latter was common at the SJ. Stealing from a sober man after sex is quite tricky. For in that immediate moment after sex many men seem as if they have woken up from a dream. Some become extra alert, reach for their trousers, quickly dress then leave. But a few will make just a small careless mistake.

This week a man picked me and drove to lodging in Parklands made notorious by its conducive conditions for spiking and stealing.  The client was a reserved but polite man probably in his late twenties. We had some okay sex, which by his facial expression and sounds I couldn't tell whether he had enjoyed. He paid me Ksh.2000. We dressed up and he stepped to the toilet, leaving his phone on the bed. Within seconds it
was in a compartment in my handbag, and I was out of the place.   This was the first time I had stolen a phone; A Nokia X something which fetched me  a mere Ksh.2,500 on the Street. . I felt nothing about it,
and still do. It might be time to quit or perfect my skills.





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Friday, January 20, 2012

Episode 57: January Mind Games


The stereotype of a Street prostitute is that of a birdbrain, a girl dull enough all she could think of to earn a living was  open her legs and lower herself to the bottom of society. Over time I have learnt there are few advantages of trying to prove otherwise to those clients who still stick with the stereotype; to show I have more thoughts, and not only of the vulgar, thieving kind. 

So most of the time I go with the flow, displaying some ignorance and avoiding any of the so called serious talk. But sometimes I want to tease a man a little bit. To get to his nerves, or remind him he is not the only one who knows. Sometimes though it's strategy, playing mental games with a mentally weaker but financially  endowed man, so that his ego is crushed and he tries to make up for it in a way that will benefit me.

Not long ago a man who looked in his early 30s picked me. Once in his car he muttered "Hey" which he quickly changes to "Sasa", supposedly a greeting in the language I could understand and comfortably communicate in.  " I am good" I replied, and not the "Poa" he expected me to say. He didn't seem surprised, after all every street girl knows some few English words. "Kumekauka sana"? ( Aren't things tough?)  he asked . He was now acting savior and wanted me to acknowledge the big favor he had done by picking me .

" Kiasi but things are brightening up" .  I said. The last phrase caught him off guard. He expected an answer in some street Swahili, in addition to acting the damsel in distress like girls on the Street sometimes cleverly do.
He sneered then stared at my thighs. I knew I was skimpy but no sexy. Looking a little stylish but wearing cheap. He smiled. " A wannabe" he must have said to himself.

We hit one of the roads recently constructed by the Chinese. It was slightly past 1am,  the road  empty. He accelerated to about 100 km/hr then slowed down abruptly to 30 km/hr or so. " Hawa wa Chinese kweli wanafanya kazi" ( These chinese are really working) he said.  Its the common ice breaking phrase in the city. I grunted in acknowledgment.

"Ukiwa naa gari kama hii ndio una appreciate better" ( When you are
driving a car like this you appreciate better ). His was a Toyota Avensis or one of those new big Toyota models.  I decided to up the game by ignoring some of what he had said and gently go beyond the pedestrian.

" Why do people seem to trust the quality of Chinese roads but not
most of the other products? " I asked in English.

" You cant appreciate a good road unless you own a car" he said. He was right that I  don't own a car but wrong assuming I will never own one. Owning a car is one of my distant dreams. But that was besides the point, he had subdued my kimbelembele, and he loved it.

" FYI China is the next super power" .  I grunted  because I didn't
have a clever quip to reply to that . After some seconds I remembered
something. Something I had heard on BBC, the station I prefer listening to because most of the local stations will in one way or another end up reminding me of my work . And I don't want to be reminded so much of it.

"Isn't interesting the Chinese don't seem interested in  pushing for the
dominance of the  Yuan like they are pushing everything else?" I asked
a little curt .

" It doesn't matter" he said and accelerated once more. I was not sure my question made sense, but it didn't  matter, I had gotten him  and now wanted want to yap more. 

" I think it does. Anyway what role do you think the euro crisis had in the battering the shilling got last year? "  I asked. Another sweet collage of a question  from BBC snippets. His face tightened and he accelerated more .

" If you know so much about the economy why don't you become the minister for finance?" he said " Instead of parading your ass in the cold!"  I laughed out loud. I had got him where I wanted. I didn't want  to push him so hard lest he dropped me or something. I rested my hand on his fly.

In the room he was rough. He twisted and pressed me hard. His ego was
hurt and that was his way of subduing me, of  redeeming it. I didn't
struggle and looked physically and mentally humbled. He loved it But there was one final thing, just to be sure. He paid me an extra Ksh.500. I thought that was his way of saying "It doesn't matter what you think you know or pretend to. You are still a prostitute and I have more money and respect than you do. That's what matters."

I didn't care. The money is what mattered to me.


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Friday, January 13, 2012

Episode 56: And Now The Men Who Can't Quit

It has been said that prostitution is a victimless crime. That a girl-man transaction being a gentleman's agreement of sorts neither of them is really a victim. But moralists will tend to differ. To them prostitution should not judged in isolation but on its effect on the larger social fabric. The man who sleeps with a prostitute has fun, but his family could suffer. What if the girl infects him with a nasty disease, which he passes on to his wife, an innocent party? What if he spends the rent and school fees on the girl? Or better still the money is stolen from him? Is the collapse of a whole family worth the feeding of a single girl who drinks so much and doesn't seem to really care about her body? Mmmmm.

Not that the men who visit Street girls are blind to the side effects, if any, of their actions. There are many who have not abandoned their families for the Street girls. Johns who run happy families, and take great care not compromise that in any way. Men with wives good in private as they are in public, but still they visit the Street.

From my economics class I can remember some musings on choice and rationality. That one stops doing something only when the incentive to stop is larger than the incentive to continue. At the face of it there are many advantages of quitting dilly dallying with prostitutes than continuing. But that is only a quick analysis which ignores the subtle benefits of a session to a girl. Some of which I have highlighted elsewhere.

On the other hand and from the same economics class I remember something about irrationality. Not all decisions human beings make are rational. There exists irrational compulsion, which makes people act in ways which are thought to lead to their own destruction, but can't resist it even when there are better alternatives. I doubt doubt visiting a prostitute or being one is a result of irrational compulsion.

These thoughts were triggered by a man in his forties, who was one of my first clients this year. The same way I had hoped not to be on the Street this year, is also the same way he had hoped not be picking girls. " Why do you want to quit?" I asked. " I don't know. I think I have been doing this for too long" . But rather than interrogate him on his motives for picking girls,and now for stopping, I turned the conversation to me. I went on and on about how I had planned to quit but failed too.

The sex was plain, perhaps the realization that we were doing something both of us hated at the time. ( I have since thrown myself back to the Street without any doubts) . And when we lay on the bed for a few minutes after the romp, I thought here we are two failures who can't summon enough will to say no. Or here are two Kenyans feeling the pressure to be conform to the good of society.

The man paid me Ksh.3000 , double the amount I had asked for. It was not a bonus. For such plain sex I felt he was giving away all the money he had planned to spend on girls that week. I wish he had on him all the money he had budgeted to use on girls the whole year.

" Will you be back" I asked tongue in cheek. " You won't see me again" he said.

Silently I wished him good luck. I am sure he will be back, perhaps a happier man than if he quit.


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Tuesday, January 10, 2012

Episode 55: Pushing On In 2012

A client once told me that prostitution is curse. That girls who get into the trade are destined to be in it. They are chosen by fate to fulfill a certain role. That the same the universe is precise; you know the delicate distance from earth to the sun, the right amount of gases in the air, the role of trees , water bodies and all in ensuring the survival of the planet so does everyone has a role. But I also read somewhere that believes in Fate and Destiny is the curse of failures.

This early in the year I find myself tempted to believe in Destiny. I know it’s not recommended that one should start the year on a sullen confused note, yet here I go. I had hoped that 2011would be my last year on the Street. But come 2012 I find myself drifting back. Somehow I am not with enough will to let go. I went back this last weekend when I was pressed for cash.

Deep inside though I know I am headed to that dangerous point girls on the street get to after sometime. The point where they start hating what they do, where they want
to quit but somehow cant. And from there it becomes downstream. A girl gets angry, rude and the perfect stereotype of a prostitute. She ends up quitting or living an empty life spreading her legs for whatever comes along.

 Yet there is a way out of that psychological trap, which is to accept that one is destined to be a prostitute. Once a girl accepts her destiny, things become relatively easy. A girl has her feet, heart and mind fully in the trade. She just has to evolve as she grows older, less pretty, and fatigued by her working environment.  And that’s what I am debating with at the moment. No need to keep saying I plan to quit, or going on and on about how I didn’t dream of being a prostitute forever. Why not  just make up my mind I am in this for the long run, and with it acquire the peace of mind that comes with knowing and accepting your purpose in this world?

Quitting for me is made complicated because I don’t know exactly why I got into this trade in the first place. Of course now I have tied it to economic needs, but still there is something else pushing me. Like they say how can I know where I am going if I don’t know where I am coming from?  

After the brand building of the last one year and with a little, discipline and determination I can run my economic life without necessary being on the street, but for some reason I am afraid of letting the street go. So what next?
I will have to wait and see how the year goes. I will get into my work with gusto. I will try enjoy my work and become happier. It’s boring to keep lamenting. . Maybe its time to up the game. To make the brand building what exactly it should be and not spend  time dilly dallying about having a higher goal, which is not clear. Its time to become a prostitute proper.

Destiny is perhaps also something to think about for those girls who email requesting me to introduce them to the trade. Yes once in a while I receive an email from a girl asking me to show them the ropes of what I do. Some will quote their pressing economic situation while others are seeking adventure. Perhaps in my writing I have given the impression that prostitution is sort of an amazing race. It’s certainly not.

Thinking of it I believe not every girl with the courage to sell her body is cut to be a prostitute. There are things that make one really fit. Some inborn traits which I would hesitate to call talent. I see it every month, girls who come to the street as determined as they can be but quit after a short while unable to flourish. Nevertheless can one be trained
to be a prostitute? I don’t think so. Just like a footballer, you either have talent or not. Football practice only makes you better but does not give one talent. I wouldn’t encourage anyone to join, let alone show them the ropes. Whether for money, power or mere adventure a girl has to seek inside her and make the bold move on her own. Girls who come to the Street as a result of peer influence  end up more frustrated than the rest of us, who walked here on their own accord. And maybe a girl has to be chosen or rather cursed by the gods.


On a different note despite being January, the tough month, business is good. The men
are bargaining less and paying well. The only low is that there are not as many.  And the city council is usually more stressful in January. Of course by the end of the month the Street will flood with the salary men with their ‘hard earned’ cash. And the drama will start. But with the sobriety and calmness of the clients of the moment it’s even harder to quit.

Happy New Year everyone.  I will continue writing.

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